Galatians 6:4-5 (AMP) 4 But each one must carefully scrutinize his own work [examining his actions, attitudes, and behavior], and then he can have the personal satisfaction and inner joy of doing something commendable [a]without comparing himself to another. 5 For every person will havc to bear [with patience] his own burden [of faults and shortcomings for which he alone is responsible].
Wishing your situation or your life will change will not make it change. When we are in the middle of a difficult situation and it seems like things are not getting better we can evaluate whether we can do anything about our situation or if we contribute in a negative way to our current situation. A couple of things we can ask ourselves when faced with a difficult situation is are my actions contributing to the situation I am in and do I have control over this situation.
One of the most difficult things I have had to do in life, is actually know who I am. To know who we are, we have to be completely honest with ourselves. When things were going bad around me, I wanted to blame everything and everyone else without taking responsibility for my part in any of the negative circumstances that were surrounding me. When I blame someone else for my situation then I do not have to take action in the situation I’m in. At the time it seems like it’s just easier to blame others.
Sometimes it takes longer for some of us to grow understand this and we never stop using the blame game as an excuse of why we are where we currently are in life. When we stop to take a true inventory of our situation, and be truly honest with ourselves, it can be depressing and humbling.
Ezra 10:4 (AMP) 4 Stand up, for it is your duty, and we will be with you. Be brave and act.”
It takes courage to take responsibility for your situation. A lot of it sometimes. Don’t let self-discovery make you feel condemned about the decisions you have made in life. Rather use the recognition as motivation to take action, one step at a time, to make a positive change for your future. Making changes is not something that happens overnight. It likely took us a while to get in the situations we are in so expect it to take a while to dig ourselves out of our situation. We make a change one choice and one action at a time.
We can turn self-condemnation into self-conviction to do whatever it is we need to do to make the changes we need to make in life. God is always there to help us on our spiritual journey in self-discovery.
1 John 1:8-9 (AMP) 8 If we say we have no sin [refusing to admit that we are sinners], we delude ourselves and the truth is not in us. [His word does not live in our hearts.] 9 If we [freely] admit that we have sinned and confess our sins, He is faithful and just [true to His own nature and promises], and will forgive our sins and cleanse us continually from all unrighteousness [our wrongdoing, everything not in conformity with His will and purpose].
When we go through trial we can come out two ways – bitter or better. Get something out of your current situation rather than let it get something out of you.