James 4:1-3 (AMP)4 What leads to strife (discord and feuds) and how do conflicts (quarrels and fightings) originate among you? Do they not arise from your sensual desires that are ever warring in your bodily members?2 You are jealous and covet [what others have] and your desires go unfulfilled; [so] you become murderers. [To hate is to murder as far as your hearts are concerned.] You burn with envy and anger and are not able to obtain [the gratification, the contentment, and the happiness that you seek], so you fight and war. You do not have, because you do not ask.3 [Or] you do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures.
A lot of times we are not happy because we want so many worldly things. Anything we want, we can just ask God for and He will give it to us in His way and in His timing if he thinks we need it. We need to make sure our motives are good and pure for the things we are praying for in our lives or the lives of others. In other words, pray for things that are in line with God’s will for our lives. We may not always know what that is. This doesn’t mean to stop praying for some of your personal needs, we need to go to God in prayer for all things. Consider looking at the motives for some of the things you are praying for.
Paul prayed that whatever came that people would endure with good temper because Paul knew that whatever took place in his life was going to work out for his good. God will do the same thing for us. Our focus on prayer can be that we become rooted and grounded in Christ and get to the point that we know whatever it is going on in our lives it is something that God is taking care of for us. God loves us unconditionally and wants what is best for us to build our Godly character.
Try to spend some time daily praying and asking God to show you your true motives of your prayers.