Philippians 3:12 (AMP) 12 Not that I have now attained [this ideal], or have already been made perfect, but I press on to lay hold of (grasp) and make my own, that for which Christ Jesus (the Messiah) has laid hold of me and made me His own.
It’s tough to receive correction without self-condemnation. We all correct our kids and it is part of growing up. We are God’s children and we need to grow up too. Part of the way we grow up is through correction from God. God corrects us because He loves us, just as we correct our kids because we love them.
When God tries to correct us and we go through self-condemnation and we may not receive what God is doing; then we ignore His correction and we have to go through the same thing over and over until we receive that correction and use it constructively to grow in Christ. If God is correcting us then we need to focus on growing but the truth is we look at things and blame everyone else for our behavior and reaction rather than focusing on making our own behavior better. God just wants us to agree with him and admit we have a problem in a certain area. We can then work with Him to be the person He wants us to be.
When we make a mistake or an area of improvement is uncovered, we don’t have to focus only on what we have done wrong, but press on to become a better person and ask God to work in us to make us better. We can focus on growing up so we can have what Jesus died to give us. I don’t want to head for the promised land all of my life and never get there because I am offended by correction rather than choose to take correction constructively.